Saturday, 29 October 2011

Criticism Sucks. Postivity is its killer.

This requires repeating.

“I always take more pleasure in liking something than in disliking something. That’s not to say there aren’t some things that deserve to be liked and some things that deserved to be disliked, but I’m never fond of disliking something.

The lesson I’ve learned is to be wary of those who are. The ones who seem to think that being critical is the same as having good taste. Those people almost never have good taste, so their opinions don’t matter. There’s no particular sophistication required to be a critic. We know this, because children often dislike foods they learn to love as adults.

So, even if what you’ve done isn’t so great, just remember that those who can’t say so with grace, those who seem to take pride in criticizing you, their opinions don’t matter. It may very well be that you’ve created a masterpiece, and they’re just children. If you can learn to be a fair judge of yourself, you won’t feel the need to rely on other people’s opinions.”

-Chris Shifflet

Wednesday, 5 October 2011

Highs and Lows, Mental Skills are Handy

I have to say that I am very fortunate in that I learned quite early on that getting worked up about things doesn't make them better. Life has many hurdles. If you focus on the negative to motivate yourself you will have a surge of energy, but very often is misdirected. Things will get done, but will they help you move in the right direction.

No, I am not proposing being an automaton. Getting upset is normal and healthy. Staying there and using it as a motivational force is, however, misguided. Very few people need this type of stress in their lives to move forward and grow. An exception would be MMA fighter or boxer. As you can see, they would be short term focused. Your life is not, or should not be short term focused.

So, what to do. It is normal to get upset, but take the time to think about why and what the next step would be. This is not taught to many people. I've worked with hundreds of people who react the moment they are "wronged". A few even notice later that it felt good at the time, but in the long term it made the problem worse. Even fewer realized that it was their responsibility to react in a healthful way. Most felt that it was necessary to react swiftly and harshly.

The Art of War would blow their mind, if they stopped to learn about the many ways to approach a problem they have at their disposal. The 36 Strategies of Ancient China is also a simplified, equally as effective breakdown of ways to approach problems with your future goals in mind.

Well, if you've read this far you are interested in personal growth and problem solving, without the anger. :)

I recommend you find these books and give them a read. They just might change your life, for the better.

If you want a really light read, try Samurai Strategies.

Thanks for your time, everyone. Have a fantastic day!